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" LIFE IS NOT ABOUT WAITING FOR THE STORMS TO PASS... 
ITS ABOUT LEARNING HOW TO DANCE IN THE RAIN..."

how to survive a LDR (long distance relationship)

Blogging is not really my "cup of tea"(not that good in expressing my thoughts) but I was inspired by a very dear friend of mine Rizza with her blogs (and my sleepless nights, haha!!) so I keep on thinking what topic to write with my first ever blog and i guess the last one as well, hahaha. Anyway, as I was browsing my facebook page and bumped into the notes section saw this key tips (copy pasted long time ago) that somehow I find a bit worth reading... to add some spice with these tips I put random photos to make it more realistic. 


LDR a.k.a. Long Distance Relationship is not as easy as being spelled out but it is as hard as it sounds (long plus distance). 

More challenging YES, much exciting YES but for me it is the most painful one than the usual relationship people have nowadays. The most heartbreaking everytime you miss your other half.

The only thing that made me proud being a part of this LDR thingy is the thought that tough individuals only survived and for the past seven years I am in this situation I did survive so therefore 
I am TOUGH :)

And to enumerate few things about toughness, I know I am:

* tough enough to bear the pain every night that he is not with me

* tough enough to discipline our daughter on my own

* tough enough to resist temptation

* tough enough to do things on my own (plumbing, carpentry) 

* tough enough to love someone who is thousand miles away FAITHFULLY. 

I really don't believe when people say that LDR is not a long lasting relationship coz if you really have trust and faith that you'll gonna make it then you will surely have the best of it.

here are some key tips to surviving a 

LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP:

1. Communication is KEY! Without this important factor you can almost be certain your relationship is going to flop. Chances are that your special someone might be talking to someone they like that’s right where they are. That like might develop. So make sure to talk to them as often as you can to remind them why they love you so much. So even just a short email saying “Hey baby I’m a bit busy but you ran on my mind (as always) and had to send you a quick message. I love you”. Trust me it makes a world of a difference.

2. Do something special for your loved one once in a while. Surprise them. Send them an ecard, a poem, a pic of you holding up a sign saying “I miss you”. Make a video of you singing them a cheesy love song. Or if you’re daring, make something a lil more naughty . They’ll love you for it.

3. Webcams! Preferrably with mics! They totally help. You get the effect that they are there with you. I know it’s not exactly the same but it makes a world of a difference. You get to see them smile, bite their lips, scratch their head, eat, just like you’re there with them. And have a lil fun too Spice up some of your webcam sessions with a lil strip tease or something lol if you’re willing. (I personally dont trust the net, but whatever floats your boat lol).

4. Find a replacement for intimacy. And no I don’t mean cheating!! I mean improvise. If I MUST spell it out: cyber sex/phone sex or as stated above have some fun with the webcam lol. Warning: (You may have to help yourself out a bit if you know what I mean lol well just until you see your special someone again )

5. Be honest and open about everything. Honesty is very important. If you’re feeling lonely, or you feel yourself liking someone, don’t hide it. Share it with your partner. Work things out. When you bottle things up, things get worse so just let it all out. You may have a couple arguments, but which couple doesn’t?

6. Don’t give up. If you’re having any doubts just remember why you got together in the first place. Remember the love you share. How much fun you two have together. How they make you laugh when you’re feeling down. How they stayed up with you the whole night when you couldn’t sleep. How they were there for you when you were at your lowest. Just look back on all the memories you shared and look forward to new memories to come.

7. Don’t hold back your love! Just because you’re separated by distance doesn’t mean any of the feelings are supressed. Show them how much you love them as often as you can! And they never tire of hearing those three little words…

bEiNg TWENTY sOmEtHiNg

They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when
you stop going along with the crowd and start
realizing that there are many things about yourself
that you didn't know and may not like.

You start feeling insecure and wonder where
you will be in a year or two, but then get scared
because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and
that, maybe, those friends that you thought you
were close to aren't exactly the greatest people
you have ever met, and the people you have lost
touch with are some of the most important ones.
What you don't recognize is that they are realizing
that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or
insincere but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job... and it is not even close
to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe
you are looking for a job and realizing that you are
going to have to start at the bottom, and that
scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see
what others are doing and find yourself judging
more than usual because suddenly you realize
that you have certain boundaries in your life and
are constantly adding things to your list of what is
acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are
insecure and then the next, secure.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of
your life. You feel alone and scared and
confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and
you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but
soon realize that the past is drifting further and
further away, and there is nothing to do but stay
where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how
someone you loved could do such damage to you.
Or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet
anyone decent enough that you want to get to
know better. Or maybe you love someone but love
someone else too and cannot figure out why you
are doing this because you know that you aren't a
bad person.

Getting wasted and acting like an
idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the
same emotions and questions over and over, and
talk with your friends about the same topics
because you cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about loans, money, the future and
making a life for yourself... and while winning the
race would be great, right now you'd just like to be
a contender!

What you may not realize is that everyone
reading this relates to it. We are in our best of
times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we
can to figure this whole thing out.

ThE iMpOrTaNt ThInGs In LiFe..

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were

meant to be there to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or to

help you figure out who you are or who you want to become.

You never know who these people may be - a roommate, a neighbor, a

professor, a friend, a lover or even a complete stranger - but when you

lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your

life in some profound way.

Sometimes, things happen to you that may be seem horrible, painful, and

unfair at first, but in reflection you find without overcoming those

obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower

or heart.

Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity

all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests,

whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly pave straight flat to

nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you

experienced, have to create who you are and who you become. Even the bad

experiences sometimes are the most important ones.

If someone loves you, give it back to them in what ever way you can, not

only because they love you, but because the way they are teaching you to

love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.

If someone hurts you, betrayed you, or breaks your heart, forgive them for

they have helped you turn about trust and the importance of being cautious

to whom you open your heart.

Make everyday count. Appreciate very moment and take from those moments

everything that you can possibly can, for you may never be able to

experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before,

and listen to what they have to say.

Let yourself fall in love, break free and set your sight high. Hold your

head up because you have very right to. Tell yourself you are great

individual, believed in yourself for if you don't believe in yourself it

will be hard for others to believe in you.

You can make anything you wish in your life. Create your own life and then

go out and live it with absolutely no regrets. And if you love someone, let

him or her know, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store.

Learn a lesson in life each day that you live! Today is the tomorrow you

were worried about yesterday. Think about it? Was it worth it?